Childmind.org did an incredible job this week of tackling some of the most common challenges parents face and offering strategies to deal with them. Some of the challenges include; tantrums, lying, and transitions.
There are other additional articles focusing on when to push your child and how to make time outs work. When knowing how far to push your child, I had tremendous respect Dr. Domingues‘ honesty when he basically admits there is no real answer. The article states, “The most important factor in knowing when and how much to push is thinking about your child’s personality. “The first step is knowing your kiddo,” says Dr. Domingues. Particularly when it comes to pushing them to do extracurricular activities, consider your child’s strengths and interests, and have them be part of the conversation about what might be fun to do outside of school.”
Dr. Domingues gives the example that if you wish your child would lessen their gaming time, to suggest some coding games. Then you both win! I couldn’t agree more. As a teacher, I push my “gamers” to Code.org. (https://studio.code.org/home ) Talk about confidence building with a boatload of excitement!
Personally, I think my daughter has a natural talent for dance and music. She finds a certain peace when performing at home. We experimented with dance classes but I got a very consistent matter-of-fact push back. She simply would say, “I do not like dance school, I like dancing in my home.” I could over analyze that I am sure, but the truth remains she is just not ready yet, and that is OK by me. Instead we dance at home, at her request!
How much do you push?
All articles can be accessed here:
PUSHING TOO HARD?
WHY KIDS LIE?
HOW TO MAKE TIME-OUTS WORK
COMMON PARENTING TRAPS